Saturday, August 27, 2011

Me, The Agency, and Irene Zeitgeist


 


Doing our best in the worst of times...reflections on this week's events


Historic is the buzzword of the week in describing the mass exodus of folks from the south to points north with the goal of escaping the pending mayhem named Irene.   We of the Northeast are a hardy lot.  Accused often of being loud, mouthy, rude, aggressive, and in-your-face. We have been the butt of all jokes Jersey and beyond.  And your point is???
Call us anything but late to the party...we can pull it together when shake comes to splash.    

Bake, Shake, and Soak
  
The week started typically enough with references to a tropical storm, growing into a hurricane and possibly threatening the east coast.  Yep, been there, heard that.  Summer was still very much in the present here.
By midweek our world was rocked literally for some seconds.

One does not put earthquake and New Jersey in the same sentence.  We are relatively fortunate compared to our southern and western counterparts when it comes to natural disasters.

Got our Emergency Plan-check, know the status of the clients-check, got the team in place-check.  We accounted for everyone.  Once we were certain that all clients and aides were in good stead, we stepped down from high alert status.  Home health agencies are no strangers to challenging conditions.  It is part of our function to have emergency procedures in place in the event of disaster.  Curiosity and bemusement were the overwhelming response to the afternoon disruption.  We were to learn that Fate was about to play her next hand... 
  
During a time in the season when shore waters were warmest and visitors at a high, we noticed northbound traffic was on the rise with boats, trailers, and campers in tow.  The initial projections and rumors had become a reality named Irene.  There was no longer any doubt to the certainty of her destination and the strength of her destructive resolve. Our emergency procedures were back to high alert and plans executed for clients and personnel.  

Exit Stage North our Heros and Heroines

My office is in a lovely little town on a main roadway leading to the shore. 
Most of the citizens are seniors with a friendly atmosphere and high sense of community.  By this time, evacuation orders started flooding the news. 

People boarded homes, packed up, and were on the roads at unprecedented volumes.  Huge lines at gas stations and crowded stores 
in preparation for the storm turned the laid back community into a beehive of activity.  Seniors slow?  Think again.

Despite the grim predictions, cooperation and calm prevailed.  Many of the neighbors formed their own support trees and banded together to ride out the storm.  The media, municipalities, county and state offices of emergency management are doing a superb job of keeping citizens informed and overseeing evacuations.  Some folks even decided to have hurricane parties featuring...what else?  The Hurricane Cocktail!


Waiting for the Beast

Saturday morning brings a dark, eerily humid stillness. Not a hint of a breeze anywhere. Our little town is no stranger to power outages during storms.  The yards are cleared of anything that may be blown away and containers filled with water.  My normally taciturn husband has undertaken homestead disaster preparation with a military precision.   

I learned that history is not the sole property of those exiting from the south.
There will never be enough libraries built to house the individual stories of those who chose to step up and keep it all together not only for themselves but for their families, friends, and neighbors.


In my town, we all hope this will blow out to sea and give each other the 'thumbs up'.   NJ's signal for 'Game On!'   You were expecting something else?  Fuggedaboudit!

We can only hunker down, stay safe, dry and do the best we can till this nasty lady makes her exit.
    

Good night Irene and good riddance!


                                                                      






Friday, August 19, 2011

Respite Care – Help for the Caregiver


Renee T. writes in:  “I work and care for my disabled father as well as my own family.  I’m exhausted and feel stretched to the limit.  What do I do?” 

Our loved ones cared, nurtured and supported us.  It is natural to feel the duty and obligation to return the love and care they gave us.  At best we feel torn that we have neither enough time nor energy to properly give to our children, spouse, home, job or ourselves.  Even the best professional caregivers know they must take down time. 
We all need a period of rest, relaxation and rejuvenation and to reclaim our smile.

What Is Respite Care?
Respite, or break for caregivers and families, is a service in which temporary care is provided to children, seniors, adults with disabilities, individuals suffering from chronic or terminal illnesses, and to children at risk of abuse and neglect. Respite care is available in or out of home settings for any length of time, depending on care needs and family resources.  Certified caregivers provide personal care, companionship, light housekeeping, meal planning and preparation plus many other services.
It is not unusual for a client to tell me that their loved one does not want a stranger in their home or does not tolerate change well.   A modest start is recommended until your loved one becomes accustomed to the change and then you can gradually increase the services. Another suggested alternative is to consider taking the care yourself.  Hire the aide to provide services in your home and cut your workload in half.  When you have completed caring for your loved one, you will not have to undertake another list of household chores.  Your stress level will be reduced and you will feel an improved measure of control.

In addition to providing direct relief, respite has added benefits for families, including:
  • Relaxation.  Your family gains peace of mind, able to take a vacation if desired, and refresh their energies and humor. 
  • Enjoyment.   Pursue favorite pastimes and new activities.
  • Stability.  Improves the family's ability to cope with daily responsibilities and maintain solidarity during crisis.
  • Preservation.  Helps preserve the family unit and reduces the pressures that might lead to institutionalization, divorce, neglect, and abuse.
  • Involvement. Allows families to become involved in their community, activities and minimizes feelings of isolation.
  • Time Off.   Allows families to spend time together and alone.  
  • Enrichment.  Establish individual identities and cultivate their own growth and development.
Adding home care services will improve the quality of life for both your loved one and you.  After all, isn’t that what we want for our families and ourselves?